Thursday, June 22, 2017

How to Discover Your Truth

By Richard Kent Matthews - Coach | Author | Speaker

Your truth will set you free...


You want the truth? Can you handle it? Let's see...

There are only three relevant questions.* Answer these and the rest is simply detail. Ready?

  1. What is it you want to do, professionally, personally, spiritually?
  2. What is stopping you? Obstacles, people, things, philosophies, opinions, stuff...
  3. What are you doing about it? Action, networking, moving around, interviewing, meditating, exercising, changing your mind...
Whatever your answers, that's the truth. The gurus will wince, tell you there's more. There isn't.

You win, or you lose, by how you face your own truth. Not mine, not theirs, YOURS.

And you've been at it all your life. 

The final secret: Change your truth, change your life.

*These questions suggested by Richard N. Bolles in his popular book 'What Color Is Your Parachute?' 2017 Ed.

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Monday, June 19, 2017

The Five Secrets of the Lucky Life

By Richard Kent Matthews - Coach | Author | Speaker


Right on target!

Your luck, whether good or bad, depends almost completely upon your view of the world. 

Disappointed? Don't be. This truth is the beginning of a whole new experience for you.
I used to think that luck was a chance-y thing, that it happened or didn't happen totally by accident, randomly. I was wrong. Still, when I first discovered the five secrets you're about to discover, I was skeptical. That is, until I put them to work. That's the key. Put these five secrets to work for you and your luck can change almost in an instant. Ready? Here goes...
(Oh, one thing... Keep an open mind here. This is not some woo woo parlor trick. This process--or system if you want to call it that--works. Read the list, let it register with you, and you'll understand why
  1. Act lucky. That's right. Act. "What do you mean by that, Richard? Act?" Yes. Here's how you do it. If you had everything you wanted right now, how would you act? Get that picture clearly in your mind. Start acting like that. No excuses. I know the BMW isn't in the driveway yet, but so what? Act like it is anyway. In reality, this is more about mindset. How would you be in your mind, in your emotions, if what you wanted was already in your life? Answer that, act on it. Make it a game. Something to ponder here: If you cannot see yourself in the picture, how can you expect to show up in it? Act like you're in it already. Soon, there you'll be--smack in the middle of it.

  2. Open your life, your mind, and your heart to receive. If you continually complain that you don't have what you want, your life is miserable, you just can't catch a break, then you're not open to receiving what you say you want. Open up to the possibility that your desire, your dream, wants you as much as you want it. No more feeling sorry for yourself. Self-pity is a big block to receiving your good, perhaps even the biggest block. "If you say you're not receiving, you won't be receiving." Richard Kent Matthews

Tuesday, June 13, 2017

You'll Never FIND Happiness, But You CAN Create It!

By Richard Kent Matthews - Coach | Author | Speaker

 

 You're writing the script. Might as well be the STAR!

“All change results from a change in meaning.” Margaret Wheatley

The number of books, CD sets, and pop therapists who say they can give you the roadmap to happiness is staggering. And I have read at least most of them over the last 30 years. Some have interesting things to suggest, most are pure crap, simple as that. Many are out to make a buck or increase their patient load, or build a mail order business. Some have your genuine interests at heart but it’s not always easy to tell which ones do, which don’t.

But…

They almost all make the whole thing ‘way too difficult, or simplistic, or even radical. “Follow my plan and you’ll be walking on a cloud by sundown.” Yeah, right. Three hundred pages to wade through and at the end, “Now, what did I just read? What am I supposed to do? Too many rules. This is too frustrating!”

Actually, creating happiness is not all that difficult, simplistic, or radical. It’s common sense, really. Read this little group of suggestions for yourself and see if you don’t agree that it’s not only possible, it’s highly probable that by applying even a portion of them, you’ll find yourself feeling a heck of a lot better. And all in only 740 or so words. Good deal, eh?

Monday, April 3, 2017

Knowing Your Own Good: The Test

By Richard Kent Matthews - Coach | Author | Speaker 



Do you know what you really, truly want--professionally, socially, relationally, spiritually?

Here's a powerful question--The Miracle Question--that may help you get clear on your desires:


If a miracle occurred overnight, and whatever it was you were hoping for actually happened, what would you first notice the next day that would indicate it had happened? How would you know? What would be different?


Getting clear on your outcome is one quick way to help you decide if what you THINK you want is what you actually want. So, again:


What would you notice first if your miracle occurred overnight?


Or would you even notice?


In order for your dreams to come true, you must first wake up.

Thursday, March 30, 2017

How to Work with Difficult People: 10 Steps

By Richard Kent Matthews - Coach | Author | Speaker



Difficult People and 10 Steps to Working Well with Them

Powerful relationships are the key to your success on every level. 

Certain people in your life can be quite challenging. Consciously or unconsciously, they seek to make your life miserable. It’s time for that to change. I'll show you how to work with, through, and around all those pesky persons who may be standing in the way of your personal, professional, even spiritual success:

It all begins with self-knowledge. What do you bring to the mix? You can change the mood of the moment by knowing yourself and your habits.

Is it possible to avoid all judgment? Maybe not. There's a major difference between judgmentalism and discernment. One hinders, the other helps.

Accept the situation? It isn’t as easy—but it’s essential. Acceptance is different from giving in. It's important to recognize when each is rearing its head.

Choosing to see the good in the situation can seem naïve; yet, it sets the tone for a smooth solution. You want to find the good in each situation without being emotionally overwhelmed.

You can speak with both authority and sensitivity. It’s not about being stepped on, or stepping on. Still, a stand often has to be taken.

Are you willing to change how you currently respond to criticism? It can make or break the negotiation, personally or professionally. Taking it personally is a poor habit. Are you aware how your habits control you? Only then can you change them.

You MUST master your anger. 

Kindness, forgiveness, gratitude. They’re not just platitudes. They are health-giving choices that can make all the difference in your relationships. Choosing them WISELY is the key. And get this: They are more for your benefit than for the other. Interesting, eh?

At times it might be necessary to simply walk away. When it’s family or close friends, colleagues or business associates, it can be a difficult choice. With a bit of practice, and controlling your anger, you will discover how to know when this choice is the right one.

Is revenge ever really sweet? It may seem so on the surface. But there is a kickback factor that is essential for you to understand and to prepare for. Nothing happens in a vacuum, including revenge. It's best to keep such reactions in check.

This short article is designed to help you make better choices in dealing with your fellow humans. It’s tough but necessary. 

You’re not in this alone. Now, you can make your relationships the best they can be. You might change the behavior of others (doubtful) but you will change your own behavior. 

Usually, that’s enough to turn the tide.

For more interesting ideas, check out this article in Psychology Today: Ten Keys...


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