Friday, April 7, 2017

Time to Step Back and Write My Book

Write? Right!

Thanks to all of you who have visited this blog.

I am going to spend the bulk of my time working on my book and audio projects. You can follow me at

This is the last post for a while, but I will be keeping the materials on the Pages above up to date so you can still get good information on job search, interview magic, resume assistance and more.

Thanks again!

Monday, April 3, 2017

Knowing Your Own Good: The Test

By Richard Kent Matthews - Coach | Author | Speaker 

Do you know what you really, truly want--professionally, socially, relationally, spiritually?

Here's a powerful question--The Miracle Question--that may help you get clear on your desires:

If a miracle occurred overnight, and whatever it was you were hoping for actually happened, what would you first notice the next day that would indicate it had happened? How would you know? What would be different?

Getting clear on your outcome is one quick way to help you decide if what you THINK you want is what you actually want. So, again:

What would you notice first if your miracle occurred overnight?

Or would you even notice?

In order for your dreams to come true, you must first wake up.

Thursday, March 30, 2017

How to Work with Difficult People: 10 Steps

By Richard Kent Matthews - Coach | Author | Speaker

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Difficult People and 10 Steps to Working Well with Them

Powerful relationships are the key to your success on every level. 

Certain people in your life can be quite challenging. Consciously or unconsciously, they seek to make your life miserable. It’s time for that to change. I'll show you how to work with, through, and around all those pesky persons who may be standing in the way of your personal, professional, even spiritual success:

It all begins with self-knowledge. What do you bring to the mix? You can change the mood of the moment by knowing yourself and your habits.

Is it possible to avoid all judgment? Maybe not. There's a major difference between judgmentalism and discernment. One hinders, the other helps.

Accept the situation? It isn’t as easy—but it’s essential. Acceptance is different from giving in. It's important to recognize when each is rearing its head.

Choosing to see the good in the situation can seem naïve; yet, it sets the tone for a smooth solution. You want to find the good in each situation without being emotionally overwhelmed.

You can speak with both authority and sensitivity. It’s not about being stepped on, or stepping on. Still, a stand often has to be taken.

Are you willing to change how you currently respond to criticism? It can make or break the negotiation, personally or professionally. Taking it personally is a poor habit. Are you aware how your habits control you? Only then can you change them.

You MUST master your anger. 

Kindness, forgiveness, gratitude. They’re not just platitudes. They are health-giving choices that can make all the difference in your relationships. Choosing them WISELY is the key. And get this: They are more for your benefit than for the other. Interesting, eh?

At times it might be necessary to simply walk away. When it’s family or close friends, colleagues or business associates, it can be a difficult choice. With a bit of practice, and controlling your anger, you will discover how to know when this choice is the right one.

Is revenge ever really sweet? It may seem so on the surface. But there is a kickback factor that is essential for you to understand and to prepare for. Nothing happens in a vacuum, including revenge. It's best to keep such reactions in check.

This short article is designed to help you make better choices in dealing with your fellow humans. It’s tough but necessary. 

You’re not in this alone. Now, you can make your relationships the best they can be. You might change the behavior of others (doubtful) but you will change your own behavior. 

Usually, that’s enough to turn the tide.

For more interesting ideas, check out this article in Psychology Today: Ten Keys...

Comments welcome.

Monday, March 27, 2017

The Power of Goals - Paraphrasing Brian Tracy (Pt 2)

By Richard Kent Matthews - Coach | Author | Speaker

Click here...From Part 1: 
Is goal setting really that important, or powerful? Let's see...

Brian Tracy, author of such books as 21 Success Secrets of Self Made Millionaires and No Excuses!, says in his book, Goals!, that setting goals is one of the most powerful ways to create a successful life, professionally as well as personally. I've followed his advice and I can speak from experience:

Goal setting works.

Part 2

You've read the first 10 points of Brian Tracy's program in Part 1. Here are the remaining 11:

  • Improve your personal relationships. You may be independent, sturdy, hearty and whole, but you're not in this game alone. You need people.
  • Optimize your health and wellness. What good is it all if you're not in good health, physically, mentally, or spiritually? Eat well, sleep well, exercise and increase your connection with whatever spirituality you embrace.
  • Measure your progress. Set benchmarks. If you don't know where you're headed, you're liable to end up someplace else. 
  • Remove the roadblocks. Problem solving is a learnable skill. Spot the stumbles, go around, fix. Nothing unfolds flawlessly. Be prepared for surprises. Committed practice is a major benefit!
  • Associate with the 'right' people. I put 'right' in marks because it doesn't mean to be arrogant or elitist. It means to pick the crowd that can benefit you on your road to success. Avoid naysayers and whiners and people who tell you it can't be done. You're doing it, so don't listen to the crappola!*
  • Make a plan of action. I know... The saying, 'If you want to make God laugh, show Him your plans' comes up every time I talk of making them. But they're still essential. Without a roadmap, a plan, the journey is much more difficult to travel. You may have to change them along the way, but that's ok. 
  • Manage your time well. 'I just don't have the time to be successful' is what you're actually saying every time you use 'no time' as an excuse. 
  • Review your goals daily. As you move through your life, making changes in your plans, meeting new people and new challenges, some of your goals may need readjustment. That's part of the commitment. Adjust as needed.
  • Visualize your goals continually. You won't know the power of visualization practice until you actually make it part of your routine. Hold the picture of your outcome in mind, give it color and action. Keep it in front of you all the time. Magic can happen.
  • Activate your Superconscious Mind. Tracy and most of the success authors are really gung ho about the superconscious mind. You may not think it's an important ingredient in all this, but you DO have an unconscious portion of your mind that not only holds all your habits in place, but also has the power to change them. You activate this part of your mind by choosing to do so. (There are lots of books and CDs on the subject. Google the term 'Superconscious Mind' and determine for yourself what you will do with the information.
  • Persist until you succeed. A word of caution here: Sometimes, as you go along, you may decide that what you thought you wanted, you really don't. It's ok to change your mind. But when you make a commitment to something, and do the required work, don't get sidelined by fear or people who don't want you to succeed (and there are plenty, since they may have a vested interest in keeping you where you are right now). If you really want it, do whatever it takes to achieve it. That is, as long as it's legal and ethical, of course!
There you have it. Brian Tracy's goal setting strategies and my comments. You don't have to follow them exactly; use them as guidelines. But set goals. They'll change you. And your direction. For the better.

Much success to you, no matter your goals!

*Crappola: All the little and not so little pieces of garbage people throw at you, and what you throw at yourself, on a continuing basis. 

Thursday, March 23, 2017

The Power of Goals - Paraphrasing Brian Tracy (Pt 1)

By Richard Kent Matthews - Coach | Author | Speaker

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Is goal setting really that important, or powerful? Let's see...

Brian Tracy, author of such books as 21 Success Secrets of Self Made Millionaires and No Excuses!, says in his book, Goals!, that setting goals is one of the most powerful ways to create a successful life, professionally as well as personally. I've followed his advice and I can speak from experience:

Goal setting works.

In this and the following post, I review Mr. Tracy's goal setting program and hope it will give you incentive to create your own. You've nothing to lose and all to gain!

  • Get started; unlock your potential. Nothing happens until something moves, says Einstein. Begin to formulate your goal plan now. 
  • Take charge of your life. Step out of the shadow of others. Be the major player in your own affairs.
  • Clarify your values. Let them be your guide and light.
  • Analyze your beliefs. Some of them may be holding you back. Be honest and face them.
  • Create your own future. Write down your dreams and imaginings. Get clear.
  • Determine your true goals. What you want is more than just material abundance. Get to the roots.
  • Decide upon your Major Definite Purpose. What is it that really drives you, moves you, creates tingles within you?
  • Start at the beginning. Be honest about where your head is right now, in this moment. Go from there.
  • Set and achieve your financial goals. Get clear on how you want to reach your financial pinnacle. 
  • Become an expert in your field. Read, listen to success CDs*, go to seminars, get all the info you can about what you want to be best at and commit to practice.
More next time!