If you want it, you can have it. But you must want it.
"It's impossible," you say. "I've tried and tried but I just can't find the right job."
As long as you keep saying that, you're right. Stop saying that.
Shad Helmstetter, in his famous book What to Say When You Talk to Yourself, summarized the importance of changing our self talk. We literally speak our innermost truth into reality, so holding onto the negative chatter is a surefire way to keep yourself on the very path you say you disdain.
Here's a simple formula to help you change your talk, your direction, your mindset. Use it as you will. It's powerful, if you maintain it.
- First, get clear on what you want, what it is you really desire. (Job? Lover? Condo?)
- Second, develop a plan of action and put it in writing. Make it a positive plan, no negatives allowed. (Present tense, please.)
- Third, begin to daily visualize your plan coming into form. See it in detail. Speak it, sing it, laugh it, do whatever it takes to get it into your daily practice. (Highly recommended: Creative Visualization by Shakti Gawain.)
- Fourth, focus on the plan. Choose a small portion of your visualized picture and focus upon it as often as possible. Be clear, be determined. Focus. (Focus can be difficult so that's why you need just a small Snap Chat-like pic of your desire on which to fixate.)
- Fifth, begin to take small steps in the direction of your visualized and focused goal. Small steps. Don't overwhelm yourself. (Practice Kaizen.)
- Sixth, commit to the process. Do not waver. Doubts will enter. Kick them downstairs! (Doubts serve a purpose, but in this case, shoo them back to their corner.)