"You have two choices in life. You can dissolve into the mainstream, or you can be distinct. To be distinct, you must be different. To be different, you must strive to be what no one else but you can be." Alan Ashley-Pitt
Right here, at the beginning, I want you to take a good look at your life and how you've live it to this point. Make an honest appraisal. How much of it has been spent attempting to please others or to fulfill someone else's desires or demands? No justifications here; those are too easy. Make it difficult for yourself. Really look. Really dig. Really recognize how much of your life has been wasted in trying to live up to someone or something else's standards.
Note: If you are one who has always lived completely by your own rules, have never set out just to please others, then you can leave us at this point. You're fine. But if an honest observation shows that you have not been completely in tune with your own wishes, dreams, and aspirations, read on.
Now for the grab. Everything you do, for yourself or for others, comes from a deep selfishness. That's right. You're selfish. Even as you're doing good, it's ultimately for yourself. For sure, others may benefit from your charity, or your involvement with them, but in the long run, you're the primary beneficiary. Does that seem somehow wrong to you?